Dear Loan Officer,
I’ve been doing some studying on emotional energy. Your thinking. Your feeling. Your vibe so to speak. (Which comes from ‘energy vibrations’.) And how all this impacts our ability to sell, build teams, and lead others.
We broadcast energy all around us, every day, to anyone around us. We also receive energy from everyone around us. But what KIND of energy? Happiness? Excitement? Gratitude? Fear? Anger? Scarcity?
We control our vibe with our thoughts and feelings. Others pick up on this and respond to your energy…good or bad. We are either giving others energy, or taking energy away from them, based on our thoughts and feelings…our vibe.
Like attracts like: people radiating positive energy will naturally move away from you if you are radiating negative energy. Even worse, people with a negative ‘vibe’ will seek out others with a negative vibe, bringing their fear, anger, grief, and negativity into your life. Misery loves company, right?
In business, sales, or even life, your mindset and vibe tells others whether you are a ‘player’ or a ‘victim’. Nobody wants to be around a ‘victim’. Teammates, friends, family, prospective clients and partners…want to be around players.
A negative vibe, a ‘victim’ vibe, can start an awful feedback loop, affecting our relationships around us, and leaving us feeling like we’re in a downward spiral sometimes. Tough to escape. Especially since what we focus on…expands in our mind. (Thanks to our Reticular Activating System).
Whereas top performers, or ‘players’ spend the majority of their life in a positive mental state, giving off positive energy that attracts others.
Knowing this, how do you start your day? What are your morning rituals that will put you into a ‘player’ mindset, giving on positive vibes?
When stuff doesn’t go your way, and you feel yourself heading to the “dark side”, how do you control your thoughts/feelings/energy to stay positive…part of the solution…get back to the ‘player’ mindset and vibe…continuing to attract others rather than repel them?
- Reading positive stuff (i.e. not news)
- Learning something new
- Talking to other positive people
- Sending a note or personal video – focusing on OTHERS and giving
If we don’t invest the time to better control our emotional energy, daily, we will continue to make everything else more difficult in our lives and in our business.
Every day is a GIFT! I wish you all the best.