“The Inception Of Suffering Is Comparison.”


“The inception of suffering is comparison.”

For years I’ve kept a journal simply titled “What I Learned”. It’s a compilation of interesting thoughts, unique insights, and advice on navigating my life in the best possible way. As I read every morning, listen to a podcast on my drive, or enjoy a conversation with someone…I log any new lessons or powerful reminders in this journal.

“The inception of suffering is comparison.”

My good friend and personal coach, Todd Ballenger shared this quote with me. But it’s hard NOT to compare, isn’t it? As a mortgage professional, friend, parent, child, athlete, restaurant owner…the world around us seems to be wired to make us compare ourselves to others. Social media is an epicenter for this harmful comparison. It’s rarely a good thing from my experience.

Best I’ve learned is this: Compare yourself…to yourself. Meaning, measure your growth and progress, from yesterday or last year or 5 years ago. Set goals, yes. But make sure they are YOUR goals, not someone else’s.

And definitely don’t compare just income, or wealth. Compare your knowledge from 5 years ago, your growth as a parent, your relationship to your spouse, your abilities as a leader, your value creation for others. These are all in our control.

Avoid the gap of comparing yourself to where you ‘wish’ you were but aren’t yet. Simply turn around and say, “Wow, look how far I’ve actually come!”

#WhatILearned #Growth #AlwaysLearning

 

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Life Lessons and Favorite Quotes: The Power of Prioritizing

 

 

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Party in the Park

Last week we hosted our first Party in the Park, an event we put together to show those who work with us our appreciation for them. We had an absolute blast! With food from KOi Fusion and beverages by Tap Wagon, there were options for everyone. It was amazing seeing so many smiles and meeting so many people! #NEOinthePark #NEOpdx #NEOHomeLoans #theNEOexperience #jointhecause  #PlayingAtALevelOthersDontKnowExists 

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Start Your Day Right!

Happy Monday! Not sure about you, but with summer here, kids out of school, the roller coaster of a market, running a business… I have gotten away from some of my morning rituals. These actions set my mind right for the day and ensure I have a more focused and productive day and week ahead. So, I’m renewing my commitment today! One of which is the 5-Minute Journal. If it helps, here’s a reminder of how I start my day right in 5 minutes each morning:

  1. I am grateful for… (write 3 things – I try to mix it up with something personal, business/team, and something more ‘global’ or 30,000 feet up looking down. This helps me regain perspective.)
  2. What would make today great? (write 3 things – I think of the appointments I have that day already – looking DOWN and IN; my health/physical goals beyond work – exercise, even if a little; and anything proactive I should do towards my greater goals – looking UP and OUT.)
  3. Daily affirmations. I am… (write down 2 affirmations – I used to struggle with this, but it’s gotten much easier with practice. YOU are doing so much good, and have so much to give… even if it doesn’t feel like it every day.)

Sometimes I feel as if I barely have ‘5 minutes’ to do this. Other times, I realize I should spend 30+ minutes mapping out an amazing day/week. Key is just doing it… make it happen. Run your day, rather than letting it run you. #TheBorrowSmartTeam #WinTheWeek #PlayingAtALevelOthersDontKnowExists #NEOpdx  #theNEOexperience #jointhecause

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90 Days to Better: We Made It! 90 Videos in 90 Days… For You

We Made It! 90 Videos in 90 Days… For You

I launched this video series at the start of April to share ideas, thoughts, and strategies with a goal to help my fellow Mortgage Professionals. In this video, I will share the book that had helped to inspire me to do this. When deciding what word I wanted to live by in 2022, I elected to embrace ‘Impact’. For me, this meant having the biggest impact on others that I could. I will carry on producing videos and creating content so that I can continue to have a positive effect on more people! What one word is going to decide the rest of 2022 for you? #JoinTheCause #90DaysToBetter #TheBorrowSmartTeam #NEOHomeLoans #ChangingTheIndustry

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90 Days to Better: Is It Time To Be Vulnerable?

Is It Time To Be Vulnerable?

I encourage you to check in with your team to see how they are doing because many people are struggling right now. Rather than trying to be strong and put on a ‘brave face’, try to bring them vulnerability. Watch this video to hear how these conversations can help your team either change perspective or find solutions to solve their problems. Your ‘A Players’ will embrace the opportunity and want to help. We need to remember that our team is there to support and collaborate with, rather than work independently from. If you would like help with how to implement this on your team, please reach out as I am happy to help! #JoinTheCause #90DaysToBetter #TheBorrowSmartTeam #NEOHomeLoans #ChangingTheIndustry

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90 Days to Better: A Powerful Question For You To Ponder

A Powerful Question For You To Ponder

I found myself inspired by a coaching call that I had with a client and friend of many years. She had found herself in a position where she was struggling and I gave her a question to evaluate over the next few weeks. Watch this video to hear what I told her so that she could get out of her own head and reposition for success. This is a practice that I use whenever I feel stuck or frustrated. There is so much opportunity out there, we just need to be ready for it! #JoinTheCause #90DaysToBetter #TheBorrowSmartTeam #NEOHomeLoans #ChangingTheIndustry

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90 Days to Better: Are You Focused on Eligibility or Suitability?

Are You Focused on Eligibility or Suitability?

My mentor and great friend taught me a long time ago how I should approach conversations with clients. Listen to this video to hear about this lesson I have now taught my team along with coaching clients. In this industry, I find that many people focus too heavily on qualifying questions regarding eligibility. With the topics I present here, you will be able to find the best money management strategy to find the optimal way to help that borrower. Let’s learn how to grow together so that we can all be better. #JoinTheCause #90DaysToBetter #TheBorrowSmartTeam #NEOHomeLoans #ChangingTheIndustry

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90 Days to Better: How I Am Approaching the Next 6 Months

How I Am Approaching the Next 6 Months

Recently, I have been talking to many Mortgage Professionals about their fears regarding the rest of the year with the market changing and business slowing down. In this video, I am sharing what I am doing to guide my team and coaching clients through the next six months. You will hear my advice on how to manage money, be smart with business, gain market share, grow your database of future borrowers, and, most importantly, the systems within your team. There is so much opportunity coming and we should focus on creating value for the future! #JoinTheCause #90DaysToBetter #TheBorrowSmartTeam #NEOHomeLoans #ChangingTheIndustry

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